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On the Child Victims Act

Posted on August 7, 2019 by Callen Harty

This morning, Wisconsin State Representatives Chris Taylor and Melissa Sargent and State Senator Lena Taylor introduced two bills at a press conference at the State Capitol. The first was the Child Victims Act, which eliminates the statute of limitations … Continue reading →

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Letter to Attorney General-Elect Josh Kaul

Posted on November 27, 2018 by Callen Harty

Dear Attorney General-Elect Kaul, Back on August 21, I sent the e-mail below urging an investigation of clergy abuse in Wisconsin to both the current Attorney General and the Dane County District Attorney. I did not hear back from either … Continue reading →

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Profiles in Cowardice

Posted on October 6, 2018 by Callen Harty

On Friday, the remaining holdouts on the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation announced their intentions in the vote that is scheduled for Saturday. For those who are survivors of sexual assault, the likely vote of 51 to 49 to confirm–unless something major … Continue reading →

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Open Letter to Bishop Morlino

Posted on August 20, 2018 by Callen Harty

Bishop Morlino, This is in response to your recent letter (August 18, 2018) to priests and parishioners of the Diocese of Madison. I am writing this as a gay man, a fallen-away Catholic, an adult survivor of childhood sex abuse … Continue reading →

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Haunted House

Posted on October 15, 2017 by Callen Harty

Trigger warning: Sexual abuse, trauma, triggers Decades later, this is what trauma can look like. The other night there was a conversation happening and given that it’s getting close to Halloween the talk turned toward haunted houses. I’ve never been … Continue reading →

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Signs of Possible Sex Abuse

Posted on April 29, 2017 by Callen Harty

As we near the end of Sexual Assault Awareness Month I’ve been thinking about something helpful I could write about it. One of the things I talk about when I share my survivor story to general audiences is … Continue reading →

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I know

Posted on April 26, 2017 by Callen Harty

I know what happened to you even though you cannot say it, because I hear it in the words you do not say, and I see it in your eyes, in the way your body hides its secrets. I see … Continue reading →

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Full Circle

Posted on April 16, 2017 by Callen Harty

Trigger Warning: This post is about child sex abuse and also suicide. Please take care of yourself first and foremost. Since coming out publicly as a survivor of child sex abuse about seven years ago I have written articles, blog … Continue reading →

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On Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, and Rape Culture

Posted on October 15, 2016 by Callen Harty

Here’s the deal. Donald Trump’s video discussion with Billy Bush about women is a disgusting display of male privilege, misogyny, and the rape culture in which we live. It is indefensible. Donald Trump’s behavior in that recording is inexcusable, … Continue reading →

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When Nightmares Intrude

Posted on September 21, 2016 by Callen Harty

Trigger Warning: This post is about surviving sex abuse. Please take care of yourself first and foremost. So last night I had a dream–a nightmare really, or a series of nightmares–in which I was assaulted again as I was … Continue reading →

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On the Milwaukee Riot

Posted on August 14, 2016 by Callen Harty

Anyone who has known me for a long time knows that I have been a pacifist since I was a child. I have stopped fights, marched for peace, and have done what little I can to make this a more … Continue reading →

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Voices of Courage Closing Remarks

Posted on April 26, 2014 by Callen Harty

I was invited to give the closing remarks at the Voices of Courage luncheon, an annual event honoring those working in the sexual assault field. The event is sponsored by the Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault. Here is what I … Continue reading →

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