Tag Archives: family

Still Beating

Posted on December 13, 2020 by Callen Harty

A year ago this afternoon, I was at my desk in the office where I work. I had just taken a sip of a soda and started to feel a bit off. When I stood up I felt a bit … Continue reading →

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Isolation 2

Posted on April 12, 2020 by Callen Harty

When I was a boy I could easily spend hours in my bedroom by myself, playing games with my toy cars. I wouldn’t race them on orange tracks with loop de loops or push them across the floor as fast … Continue reading →

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The Agony of Aging

Posted on January 9, 2020 by Callen Harty

While I don’t really feel all that old, I am keenly aware that I am aging. I could still live for several more decades, but maybe not. I’m in my 60s now and have had several heart issues. … Continue reading →

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Proud

Posted on May 26, 2019 by Callen Harty

Twenty years ago I was working at OutReach, which is Madison, Wisconsin’s LGBT Community Center. I was also heavily involved at Broom Street Theater, a unique theater company that produces nothing but original works. I was an actor, director, and playwright … Continue reading →

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On Living

Posted on October 22, 2017 by Callen Harty

While country music is not my favorite style of music there is one crossover song that strikes me every time I hear it. It is Tim McGraw’s song, Live Like You Were Dying. Every time I hear the line, “Someday I … Continue reading →

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Maybe the Best Christmas Present Ever

Posted on December 26, 2014 by Callen Harty

Even as a little boy Christmas for me was never mostly about the gifts and the commercialism that mark the season in this country. As a child in a strict Irish-Catholic family it was about the celebration of the birth … Continue reading →

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From Dreams

Posted on December 11, 2014 by Callen Harty

Yesterday morning I woke up from a hard dream and it stayed with me all day long. In the dream I was at work when my cell phone rang. It was my sister calling and all she said was “She’s … Continue reading →

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More than Benefits

Posted on October 8, 2014 by Callen Harty

Often when the subject of marriage equality comes up there is talk of the financial benefits of marriage, especially in America where everything is typically reduced to the bottom line of expenses and profits, where people often look most to … Continue reading →

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Letter to the LaFayette County Clerk

Posted on June 13, 2014 by Callen Harty

On Friday, June 7, Judge Barbara Crabb ruled Wisconsin’s Constitutional same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional. She didn’t do a very good job of guidance for what that meant, but by Thursday morning, June 12, all but nine of Wisconsin’s 72 counties … Continue reading →

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Thanks and Love

Posted on November 28, 2013 by Callen Harty

Today I pause to give thanks, though I realize that each day lived is a gift for which I can be thankful. When you survive a major life-threatening heart attack then each day after that brings new wonder and beauty … Continue reading →

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Reflections on My Mother

Posted on September 26, 2013 by Callen Harty

I can’t stop thinking about my mother this week. For months now it has seemed that she is at the end of her life, but she has kept waking up to each new day, seemingly strong and determined despite her … Continue reading →

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On Becoming an Orphan

Posted on June 10, 2013 by Callen Harty

Little boys can have all sorts of unimaginable fears. There can be monsters in the closet or under the bed, temptations of the devil, bullies on the street, bad guys in general, even the horrors of spinach or other foods … Continue reading →

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