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Pride (and Prejudice)

Posted on June 12, 2019 by Callen Harty

So far, this year’s Pride Month has been a bizarre microcosm of living life as a queer person in the United States, and our experience is a microcosm of minority communities in general. This month, the queer community has … Continue reading →

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Open Letter to Bishop Morlino

Posted on August 20, 2018 by Callen Harty

Bishop Morlino, This is in response to your recent letter (August 18, 2018) to priests and parishioners of the Diocese of Madison. I am writing this as a gay man, a fallen-away Catholic, an adult survivor of childhood sex abuse … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech

Posted on June 22, 2018 by Callen Harty

At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading →

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Bolton Refuge House Fall Gala Speech

Posted on November 4, 2017 by Callen Harty

I was invited by Bolton Refuge House to be their keynote speaker at their annual Fall Gala. Bolton is the oldest domestic violence shelter in the state and is located in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. They also provide services for sexual … Continue reading →

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A Day in the Life of My America

Posted on October 30, 2016 by Callen Harty

Most days, even on the weekends when I don’t have to, I tend to wake up by 6:30 or 7:00. Today I was able to sleep in until about 7:30 or so, and then I was able to lounge in … Continue reading →

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Breaking the Cycle

Posted on July 7, 2016 by Callen Harty

Sometimes violence in a family is generational. A father beats a son who beats his son who beats the next son because that is the world in which each of the sons grew up and that is how they learned to deal … Continue reading →

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On the Pulse Nightclub Massacre

Posted on June 14, 2016 by Callen Harty

Within a couple minutes of waking up on Sunday morning several posts on Facebook had alerted me to yet another mass shooting in the United States. A moment later I saw that it had taken place at a gay nightclub … Continue reading →

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Hazing and Other Misconceptions

Posted on October 14, 2014 by Callen Harty

Sometimes the news media irritate the hell out of me with their lack of professionalism and how little attention to detail they pay to anything. They ignore stories of great import, misidentify the real issues, and sensationalize other stories to … Continue reading →

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On Privilege

Posted on February 11, 2014 by Callen Harty

Two items around the idea of privilege were thrust at me in the last couple days and they both show just how insidious privilege can be. The first was an offhand comment made on someone’s Facebook post of an article … Continue reading →

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Survivor Story

Posted on November 12, 2013 by Callen Harty

Trigger Warning: Parts of this blog post may be triggering. Please take care of yourself and seek out help if you can. A couple months ago I was invited to do a presentation at Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault’s “Sexual … Continue reading →

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What It’s Like to Be Gay in America Today to Me

Posted on November 5, 2013 by Callen Harty

The last few days have brought some really great news for queer America, but it has to be tempered with the reality of living life as a gay man–or lesbian, bi, trans, or other alternative orientations and ways to express … Continue reading →

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