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My Heroes Have Always Been Human

Posted on January 27, 2020 by Callen Harty

We live in a world in which no one can be a hero anymore. There is always something problematic about those who are admired by others. There is always a past, a mistake, a misstep of one sort or another, … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing press release, 2019

Posted on June 3, 2019 by Callen Harty

Several Wisconsin organizations have partnered for the seventh year to organize and sponsor Paths to Healing, a one-day conference on surviving child sex abuse to be held from 8:45-4:15 p.m. at the American Family Insurance Training Center on Friday, June … Continue reading →

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#SurvivorLoveLetter

Posted on February 14, 2019 by Callen Harty

To the boy that is me, You and me, we are not so different, even with so many intervening years separating us. We are fighters, stubborn, curious, seekers of justice, too trusting sometimes, lovers of nature, smart, naïve, innocent. We … Continue reading →

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Profiles in Cowardice

Posted on October 6, 2018 by Callen Harty

On Friday, the remaining holdouts on the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation announced their intentions in the vote that is scheduled for Saturday. For those who are survivors of sexual assault, the likely vote of 51 to 49 to confirm–unless something major … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech

Posted on June 22, 2018 by Callen Harty

At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading →

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On Suicide

Posted on June 9, 2018 by Callen Harty

Trigger warning for suicide/suicidal ideation. When I was living in my dorm in college one of the men at the other end of the long hall on our floor killed himself. In retrospect it was not a sudden thing. … Continue reading →

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Bolton Refuge House Fall Gala Speech

Posted on November 4, 2017 by Callen Harty

I was invited by Bolton Refuge House to be their keynote speaker at their annual Fall Gala. Bolton is the oldest domestic violence shelter in the state and is located in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. They also provide services for sexual … Continue reading →

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I know

Posted on April 26, 2017 by Callen Harty

I know what happened to you even though you cannot say it, because I hear it in the words you do not say, and I see it in your eyes, in the way your body hides its secrets. I see … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing 2015 press release

Posted on May 15, 2015 by Callen Harty

For the third consecutive year several Wisconsin organizations have partnered to put together Paths to Healing, a one-day conference on surviving childhood sex abuse that will be held this year from 8:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m. at the Goodman Community Center in … Continue reading →

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Hope, Healing, Support

Posted on November 1, 2014 by Callen Harty

Tonight I sit in my hotel room a thousand miles from home and a thousand miles from my life partner Brian with tears at the corners of my eyes, and I welcome those tears. They are partly a release, partly … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing Press Release (2014)

Posted on June 14, 2014 by Callen Harty

For the second consecutive year several Wisconsin organizations have partnered to put together a one-day conference on surviving childhood sex abuse that will be held this year from 8:00 a.m.-5:00 p.m. at the Sheraton Hotel in Madison on Thursday, June … Continue reading →

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Path to the Future

Posted on June 22, 2013 by Callen Harty

On Thursday a conference was held in Madison called Paths to Healing: Conference on Child Sex Abuse Survival. It focused on male survivors of childhood sex abuse as an underserved population. It came about after I received an e-mail from … Continue reading →

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