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The Problem with Monuments
Today is the traditional Columbus Day holiday, which in many places is now being celebrated as Indigenous People’s Day or Native American Day, among other names. For years, Christopher Columbus was celebrated as the person who “discovered” America. The reality … Continue reading
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Tagged African-Americans, America, anti-Semitic, art, Atlantic, Baghdad, Bahamas, beliefs, Berlin Wall, Budapest, Central America, Charles Lindbergh, Christopher Columbus, citizens, civil war, coach, colonization, Columbus Day, Confederate leaders, Congress, diseases, enslavement, Eurocentric, fascist, flaws, founding fathers, future genrations, George Floyd, George Washington, government, heroes, history, holiday, honoring, human, Hungarian Revolution, ideals, Indigenous People's Day, insurrection, Iraqi history, Joe Paterno, leaders, legacy, majority, minority, modern standards, monuments, morals, nation, Native American Day, Native Americans, nature, NCAA, North America, pedestals, police brutality, politics, power, Presidents, protests, representation, revolution, Saddam Hussein, settlement, sexual abuse, slaveowners, slavery, South America, Stalin, statues, taxation, Thomas Jefferson, union, United States, voting, white male landowners, women
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Pictures of a Lost Youth
Trigger warning: This post talks about child sex abuse. Please take care of yourself. My sister has been looking through old photos that my mother had and posting some online for those who are pictured in them. Recently she posted … Continue reading
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Tagged aftereffects, Anne Frank, boy, child sex abuse, childhood, emotions, fear, goodness, guilt, happy, high school graduation, hopeful, idealistic, lost innocence, memories, pain, photo, pictures, positive, rape, sadness, sexual abuse, shame, smile, survivors, teen years, trigger warning, vulnerable
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Abuse in the Diocese of Madison
On August 21 I sent a letter to the Wisconsin Attorney General, Republican Brad Schimel, and to Dane County Democratic District Attorney, Ismael Ozanne, asking either or both of them to start an inquiry into sexual abuse of children in … Continue reading
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Tagged adult survivor, Attorney General Brad Schimel, Australia, Bishop Morlino, bishops, Boston, cardinals, Catholic, child sex abuse, church superiors, confidentiality, criminal wrongdoing, Dane County Distric Attorney Ismael Ozanne, Diocese of Madison, Diocese of Milwaukee, evidence, gay, grand jury, homosexuals, Ireland, justice, New York, onto an, Pennsylvania, priests, sexual abuse, statue of limitations, survivor, transgender, victims, William Nolan, Wisconsin
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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech
At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading
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Daily Triggers
Trigger Warning: This post is about sexual abuse, harassment, and child sex abuse. Please take care of yourself first and foremost and please seek help if anything along these lines has happened to you. Pretty much every day now … Continue reading
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Tagged Al Franken, Alabama, American Media, Apprentice, Bill Cosby, California, child sex abuse, Danny Masterson, Donald Trump, Dustin Hoffman, Dylan Howard, fame, fear, Garrison Keillor, harassment, healing journeys, Hyperloop, John Conyers, John Oliver, justice, Matt Lauer, media, National Enquirer, Netflix, perpetrators, Pishevar, Roy Moore, Senate, sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, shame, statute of limitations, survivors, Terry Crews, Today Show, triggers, truth, victim blaming, victims
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The Real Story of Assault
The way that America’s media and Americans’ attention span works it will likely be another couple or few weeks that everyone is fascinated by all the sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and child sex abuse stories popping up every day. Because … Continue reading
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Tagged Al Franken, America, assault, B list celebrities, Bill Cosby, celebrity culture, child sex abuse, Child Victims Act, Erin's Law, Harvey Weinstein, James Toback, Jerry Sandusky, Josh Duggar, journalists, Kevin Spacey, Louis CK, New York Times, President, R. Kelly, rape, reality television, rich and famous, Roman Polanski, Roy Moore, sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, stars, survivors, victims, Woody Allen
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Haunted House
Trigger warning: Sexual abuse, trauma, triggers Decades later, this is what trauma can look like. The other night there was a conversation happening and given that it’s getting close to Halloween the talk turned toward haunted houses. I’ve never been … Continue reading
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Tagged abuse, anxiety, basement, breathe, control, emotional paralysis, Fitbit, flashbacks, ghosts, goblins, Halloween, Haunted house, heart rate, horror movies, little boy, memory, molested, sexual abuse, trauma, triggers
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Courage
I’d like to thank WCASA and all of the wonderful employees there for presenting me with this award. I am deeply honored to be named your Courage Award recipient for 2016. I would also like to thank Angie Rehling of OutReach who nominated … Continue reading
Wisconsin Justice
Inexperienced, unqualified, bigoted, highly partisan, and beholden to rich supporters. This is Wisconsin justice in 2016. As a gay man, as a citizen of this once-great state, as a person whose family has lived here since 1827, I am so far beyond … Continue reading
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Tagged abortion, AIDS, anti-Democrat, anti-women, Camille Paglia, conservative Governor Scott Walker, Constitutuion, contraception, corporate shill, discrimination, faggot, gay, gay rights, Holocaust, homophobic, Joanne Kloppenburg, jurist, Justice Patrick Crook, lesbian, Milwaukee County Circuit Court, non-partisan, pedophiles, personhood, precedent, queer, rape, Rebecca Bradley, right-wing, sexual abuse, slavery, suicide, victim blaming, Willie Horton, Wisconsin Club for Growth, Wisconsin Court of Appeals, Wisconsin Justice, Wisconsin Right to Life, Wisconsin Supreme Court
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An Open Letter to Speaker Vos
Dear Representative Vos, As the Speaker of the Wisconsin State Assembly you are in a position to push certain bills or your entire agenda forward if you wish. That is the nature of the job you hold. You can also ensure that proposals … Continue reading
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Tagged AB692, alcohol and drug abuse, Assembly Speaker, child sex abuse, children, Empty Playground: A Survivor's Story, Erin's Law Assembly Bill 691, Healthy Relationships, Legislature, partisan politics, pink blazers, Republicans, Robin Vos, sexual abuse, survivor, teen dating violence prevention, Wisconsin, Wisconsin State Assembly
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The Lesson of the Cosby Case
I remember watching I Spy back in the 1960s and I remember that I enjoyed Robert Culp and Bill Cosby in it. At the time I was too young to realize that having a black man in such a role was … Continue reading
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Tagged 7th Heaven, Andrea Constand, Bill Cosby, child sex abuse survivor, Cliff Huxtable, courage, date rape, denial, Facebook, Fat Albert, Frankenstein, I Spy, immoral behavior, Internet, Jerry Sandusky, Linda Traitz, monster, perpetrators, rape, Robert Culp, sexual abuse, sexual assault, statute of limitations, Stephen Collins, The Cosby Show, Twitter, victim blaming
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A Single Bluebird 
Hazing and Other Misconceptions
Sometimes the news media irritate the hell out of me with their lack of professionalism and how little attention to detail they pay to anything. They ignore stories of great import, misidentify the real issues, and sensationalize other stories to … Continue reading →