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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech

Posted on June 22, 2018 by Callen Harty

At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading →

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On Suicide

Posted on June 9, 2018 by Callen Harty

Trigger warning for suicide/suicidal ideation. When I was living in my dorm in college one of the men at the other end of the long hall on our floor killed himself. In retrospect it was not a sudden thing. … Continue reading →

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Bolton Refuge House Fall Gala Speech

Posted on November 4, 2017 by Callen Harty

I was invited by Bolton Refuge House to be their keynote speaker at their annual Fall Gala. Bolton is the oldest domestic violence shelter in the state and is located in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. They also provide services for sexual … Continue reading →

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I know

Posted on April 26, 2017 by Callen Harty

I know what happened to you even though you cannot say it, because I hear it in the words you do not say, and I see it in your eyes, in the way your body hides its secrets. I see … Continue reading →

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A poem for my mother

Posted on May 7, 2016 by Callen Harty

I always bring my camera because I never know which visit will be my last. I greet you and casually mention I am your son, just so you know. Words tumble from your tongue trying to find a place to … Continue reading →

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Wrap Around the Capitol Speech

Posted on April 26, 2014 by Callen Harty

I was asked to give a speech at Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault’s annual Wrap Around the Capitol event, held as part of Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Here is the speech I delivered. Good afternoon. I stand here before you … Continue reading →

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I Am Rising

Posted on January 18, 2014 by Callen Harty

I am rising because silence is not an option any more. I was silenced too long by threats, social pressures, and my own shame and fear. It took me years to realize that keeping the abuse a secret helped no … Continue reading →

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Vigil to End Violence

Posted on June 13, 2013 by Callen Harty

When the Sikh temple in Oak Creek, Wisconsin was attacked I felt compelled to go downtown to Wisconsin’s Capitol building with a candle in memory of those slain and wounded and as a way to put out positive energy after … Continue reading →

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Doors of Love

Posted on August 6, 2012 by Callen Harty

A certain numbness settled on me as the day wore on yesterday. For hours it was the only response I could muster to the horrific shooting just down the Interstate in suburban Milwaukee. As unsettling and depressing as the Dark Knight shooting in … Continue reading →

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