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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech

Posted on June 22, 2018 by Callen Harty

At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading →

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At the Table

Posted on September 30, 2017 by Callen Harty

The local chapter of Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) maintains an information table at the weekly Farmers Market downtown. They have literature and brochures and typically have two volunteers sit at the table to greet people, give … Continue reading →

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Ferguson

Posted on November 25, 2014 by Callen Harty

It was with deep sorrow that I awakened to morning in America today. Fires burned on the streets of Ferguson overnight and there is fire in my soul this morning. I am angry, I am saddened, I am moved. It … Continue reading →

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More than Benefits

Posted on October 8, 2014 by Callen Harty

Often when the subject of marriage equality comes up there is talk of the financial benefits of marriage, especially in America where everything is typically reduced to the bottom line of expenses and profits, where people often look most to … Continue reading →

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Bobby Lee and Me

Posted on June 25, 2014 by Callen Harty

Bobby Lee McClung has been on my mind a lot lately. I have been thinking about race and racism a lot lately. Bobby Lee came to visit my hometown in southwestern Wisconsin when I was a kid and an event … Continue reading →

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Letter to the LaFayette County Clerk

Posted on June 13, 2014 by Callen Harty

On Friday, June 7, Judge Barbara Crabb ruled Wisconsin’s Constitutional same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional. She didn’t do a very good job of guidance for what that meant, but by Thursday morning, June 12, all but nine of Wisconsin’s 72 counties … Continue reading →

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On Privilege

Posted on February 11, 2014 by Callen Harty

Two items around the idea of privilege were thrust at me in the last couple days and they both show just how insidious privilege can be. The first was an offhand comment made on someone’s Facebook post of an article … Continue reading →

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Brian Boitano is Gay

Posted on January 4, 2014 by Callen Harty

So Brian Boitano came out recently and nobody is surprised. And that is irritating me. Matt Lauer interviewed him on the Today Show a couple days ago and made a joke about not being shocked by the news. Boitano graciously … Continue reading →

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The Secret Queer Ring

Posted on August 28, 2013 by Callen Harty

So Pat Robertson reported on the “700 Club” the other night that gay people in large cities like San Francisco (the modern-day Sodom) are spreading AIDS by wearing special rings that cut people when they shake your hand and put … Continue reading →

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Toward a More Queer World

Posted on August 1, 2013 by Callen Harty

Words are so important. A subtle shift in the way someone is described can mean the difference between acceptance and rejection. In queer history, just as in other minority communities, we have evolved through many word choices to more clearly … Continue reading →

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Why Marriage Equality is Important

Posted on March 26, 2013 by Callen Harty

As the U. S. Supreme Court hears arguments on the constitutionality of California’s proposition 8, which overturned same-sex marriage in the state, the question arises, “Why is marriage equality important?” Some would argue that it is not, that married couples … Continue reading →

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