Tag Archives: empathy

Trans Position

Posted on March 11, 2023 by Callen Harty

Every day, every single day, a different right-wing politician introduces yet another bill in yet another state (or federally) that will in some way take away the rights or dignity of transgender people and make life harder for a group … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged abusers, allyship, authentic, Christ, Christian, Dignity, drag, drag queens, electorate, empathy, legislation, love, minorities, peace, politician, pride, rhetoric, right-wing, rights, sons, trans, transgender, tyranny | Leave a comment

Emotional Distancing

Posted on March 25, 2021 by Callen Harty

Apparently I did not know how much fear, stress, and anxiety had built up within me over the last year, but apparently it was there all along. Not only was I socially distancing, but I was also emotionally distancing. While … Continue reading →

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Virus of the Soul

Posted on May 4, 2020 by Callen Harty

Sitting at home reading about tens of thousands of people in my country dying of Covid-19 is hard enough. Knowing that countless more will die in the coming months is even more difficult. But reading about ignorant and hateful acts … Continue reading →

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Yes, This Is Who We Are

Posted on October 29, 2018 by Callen Harty

Aside from the ubiquitous thoughts and prayers, the refusal to consider any kind of gun control at all because it’s always too soon to talk about it, and the flags once again lowered to half-staff, there is another thing … Continue reading →

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Profiles in Cowardice

Posted on October 6, 2018 by Callen Harty

On Friday, the remaining holdouts on the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation announced their intentions in the vote that is scheduled for Saturday. For those who are survivors of sexual assault, the likely vote of 51 to 49 to confirm–unless something major … Continue reading →

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Paths to Healing Keynote Speech

Posted on June 22, 2018 by Callen Harty

At this year’s Paths to Healing conference on male survivors of child sex assault I was the keynote speaker. This is the text of the speech I delivered today. Good morning. I’d like to start by thanking Chris Taylor, who … Continue reading →

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Will they know

Posted on January 30, 2018 by Callen Harty

When they dig up these bones what will they find on the skeleton of my life? Will they be able to read the hieroglyphics on my skull and the petroglyphs of my soul etched in the decaying calcium before them? … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged all, anger, bodies, bones, corpse, curiosity, dust, earth, empathy, enrgy, frailty, hate, hieroglyphics, home, human beings, immortality, life, love, man, mortality, passion, petroglyphs, skeleton, soul, strength, writing | Leave a comment

Forgive the Shooter

Posted on May 5, 2015 by Callen Harty

On Sunday evening in the small Wisconsin town of Menasha a man apparently distraught over a recent breakup and argument with his former fiancée took two guns with him on his bike and went for a ride. On the middle … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged "eye for an eye", "hill of death", Adam Bentdahl, bridges, Christian, compassion, empathy, Erin Stoffel, faith, forgive, forgiveness, forgiving, guns, hate, hero, heroism, Jim Campbell, Jonathan Stoffel, life story, Little Lake Butte Des Mortes, love, Menasha, Old Testament, Olivia Stoffel, religion, retribution, selflessness, Sergio Daniel Valencia del Toro, shooter, Trestle Trail Bridge, violence, Wisconsin | 2 Comments

To Mom on Your 90th Birthday

Posted on February 18, 2015 by Callen Harty

You were born in 1925. February 19, 1925 and you came into this world as the youngest of nine children. And now, it is 2015. It is nine decades later. It is ninety years later and you are still smiling and … Continue reading →

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Through the Darkness Lightly

Posted on April 18, 2013 by Callen Harty

After 24 years of sobriety my days of heavy drinking seem like a distant blur and somewhat unreal in certain ways. I spent about eleven years of my life in a pretty much constant drunken haze, self-medicating, hiding, creating masks. … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged addictive personality, alcohol, alcoholism, child sex abuse, Child Victims Act, depression, drugs, drunk, empathy, faith, forgiveness, innocence, Jesus, lessons, male survivors, masks, molestation, paranoia, rape, self-medication, self-revelation, sexual abuse, sobriety, suicide, survival, thankfulness | Leave a comment

Dark Secrets

Posted on March 24, 2013 by Callen Harty

About eight months ago I set up a new Facebook page in response to the Penn State child abuse scandal. It was intended as a place to show support with the survivors there and survivors worldwide and as a clearinghouse … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged blame the victim, counselor, crisis line, cult, empathy, Facebook, Jesus, Penn State child abuse, rape, sex crime, Solidarity with Child Abuse Victims/Survivors, suicide, survivors, victims | 1 Comment

Weldschmerz

Posted on October 3, 2012 by Callen Harty

As a natural empath I can absorb an incredible amount of pain for others. I have been blessed in the sense that my own pain threshold, both physical and emotional, is much higher than most. This doesn’t mean I never … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged empathy, joy, sadness, weldschmerz, world joy, world pain | Leave a comment